Sexual Problems

Sexual Problems
Treatment at Toronto and Sudbury THRIVE Programme

Now available across Canada and USA online by Skype!



Sexual problems successfully treated at the Toronto and Sudbury THRIVE Programme include Vaginismus, Impotence, Frigidity, Premature Ejaculation and General Sexual Anxiety. THRIVE is a six week/seven session programmeView progamme layout here.

While it is the case that some sexual problems have an actual medical/physical cause, most are the result of emotional/psychological conflict. Most people who do have sexual problems as a result of emotional conflict will find that their sexual problems are not the only conflict they have in their lives. Amongst their sexual problems, they also have some of or all of the following symptoms as well:

Fear of being judged

Fear of being ‘put on the spot’

Aversion to criticism


Inferior view of themselves

Negative self-image


If all this is ringing true, then your sexual problems are probably a symptom of what is called social anxiety or social phobia and self-esteem. Almost everyone is socially phobic to a lesser or greater extent and having sexual problems as a result is a very common symptom.

To resolve your sexual problems, all we need to do is resolve the root cause of the social anxiety that is causing them. Underlying the social anxiety are many psychological factors that include your beliefs, thinking styles, personality, social anxiety and self-esteem to name a few. THRIVE is the very best therapy in the world at resolving these psychological factors by teaching you how these factors are employed and maintained.

We are taught many things in our lives, but how to understand and avoid the pitfalls of our psychological processes is not one of them. Through this 6 week training program you will finally be able to free yourself from the anxiety, stress and low confidence that lie at the root of your sexual problems.

What is Anxiety

Unlike worry which is an appropriate response to life’s circumstances, such as losing a job, anxiety lingers and lasts beyond theses circumstances.

Contrary other emotions that we feel on an everyday basis, anxiety seems to come from nowhere. When we are sad, we know why we feel sad. When we are happy, we know why we are happy. With anxiety however it is if it comes from nowhere, it is something inside of us but outside our control.

Anxiety does have a cause, just like our other emotions but it is difficult for the sufferer to gain insight into why they have anxiety. This is why those who suffer from anxiety often find it very difficult to explain why they are feeling the way they do.

We humans do not like the unknown and the unknown reason behind our anxiety is no exception. As a result, our minds attempt to either relate our anxiety to something in the real world or symptoms are created. This could result in the formation of a phobia, compulsions, obsessions, bodily symptoms, etc.. The formless free-floating anxiety now has form and most importantly it has a reason.

The symptoms created are just as difficult to explain to those suffering from them as the anxiety that is causing them. “I’ve just always been this way”, “I just need to do it”, “I am not sure, it just happens’”, etc… The reason for our inability to explain it is because we really do not know why it is happening. If we did, the anxiety would disappear along with the symptoms created.

Many suffering from anxiety or its related symptoms feel that their situation is hopeless and could not imagine how anything could help them overcome their suffering. They have tried everything and nothing seems to help. Everything that they have done however, is usually done with regard to their symptoms and the root of their problem is not affected.


Resolving your sexual problems permanently with THRIVE

To achieve permanent results we need to help you gain insight into how this problem was created in the first place. THRIVE is one of the best and most successful programmes in the world at teaching you the root causes of anxiety and its related symptoms.

There are a variety of different mechanisms in place that cause a person to create anxiety. Amongst them are self-esteem, social anxiety, your beliefs, thinking styles, character traits, etc. THRIVE is an evidence based psychological training program that offers you a permanent resolution to your problems, letting you live a life free from anxiety and it’s symptoms. Along with resolving your anxiety, all other problems that were associated with these psychological factors will disappear as well, leaving you more in control of your life in general.

Other therapies including CBT, psychotherapy, EFT, NLP only ever deal with the symptoms of your anxiety, leaving the root to manifest elsewhere. Why control your problem when you can rid yourself of it once and for all.


Why is it vital to understand how my anxiety was created?

Imagine you are lost in the wilderness and have no idea how you got there, but I gave you a map pinpointing the steps you took to get lost in the first place and how to never get lost again in the future. Could you get out? Of course…

Now let’s say I just rescued you by helicopter and plopped you back in familiar territory but gave you no map and no resources to not make the same mistake again. You are likely to get lost again!

THRIVE gives you the map and the resources to get out and to never again fall into the mental traps that created your social anxiety in the first place.


Why traditional hypnotherapy is not recommended for Anxiety:

Traditional hypnotherapy (also known as Suggestion Therapy) falls short because it deals only with the symptom and not the cause. In traditional hypnotherapy your anxiety would be suggested away under hypnosis with suggestions like ‘you feel calm and at ease at things that previously upset you’. While you will probably leave the hypnotherapist feeling less anxious and your anxiety diminished, the originating cause of your anxiety, the psychological mechanisms that created it have not been addressed.

Because these mechanisms are still there, they will find an ‘outlet’. So you may not experience your anxiety as often, but now you may fear being in crowds for example. This is known as symptom substitution and is a very real phenomenon.

Worse yet, suggestions from a hypnotherapist don’t always last forever, so in a few months time, your anxiety may well return.

For these reasons, traditional hypnotherapy (suggestion therapy) is not recommended for anxiety.


Have a look over the following testimonials and read more here:


The Thrive program changed my life!

I found out about Daniel DesLauriers and Thrive program when I searched theinternet for “sexual anxiety therapy Toronto” or something like that. Prior to this I had been just started going to a counselor which lead me to discover that I had a “General Anxiety Disorder”, medical terminology aside, talking to someone helped me realize that I did in fact have some deep set issues that were effecting me on a daily basis. Not to the point where I wouldn’t leave the house, but just little thoughts constantly floating around my head revolving around worrying about pretty much everything. I was able to live with this, in fact I just thought that was how I was always going to be.

The breaking point came when this anxiety and negative unhelpful thinking started effecting my performance in the bedroom. I hit rock bottom, my self esteem was the lowest it had ever been, my girlfriend was on the verge of breaking up with me, I felt completely helpless and terrified. Through the exercises in the book I discovered that I actually didn’t love myself and part of my belief system was that I wasn’t a good lover and didn’t deserve to be happy or have a girlfriend. So I was basically subconsciously sabotaging my own life. Those little negative thoughts that floated around my head were leading me down a path where I would be alone and miserable.

I felt completely helpless until reading this book and meeting with Daniel every week. It really did change my life. I learned that I had control of my thoughts and that I could change the way I thought and felt about myself and the world around me. Over the 6 weeks I worked through this book my mood, self esteem improved and my anxiety lessened more an more. It took a lot of work and self analysis. It’s not really hard work, but I feel like you have to want to do it for it to work. And I did want to do the work. I worked even harder, once I realized that the work I put into it was having a direct and positive effect on me. You will learn that it takes persistent daily effort to overcome your unhelpful thinking habits, but the more you do it the easier it becomes until it is just second nature.

Friends who have notice the change in me always ask “who is your therapist?”. I tell them that Daniel isn’t the same as a therapist, he is more of a guide. His role is to keep you accountable and answer an questions you may have as you work through the book. The really important part of the Thrive program is that you aren’t reliant on anyone or any procedure. The changes all come from within. The book and the consultant just help to show you the techniques to eliminate the unhelpful thinking styles and beliefs. It’s a very powerful thing to realize that you have the power to change and build new positive pathways in your brain for perceiving the world.

Daniel is an excellent consultant. He has a very gentle disposition and has a good sense of humor. I felt very comfortable talking to him and sharing some very personal things. He is very accommodating to your schedule, even meeting over Skype when situations didn’t allow us to meet in person.

I highly recommend Daniel and the Thrive program for anyone who is suffering from something like sexual dysfunction, anxiety, depression or obsessive compulsive behavior. Thanks to this program my anxiety is not an issue anymore, I’m able to experience emotions, be present and love myself. I am now looking forward to every new day and continuing to thrive in my life. Anyone can do this, I truly believe that. – Donald Thrive Program Toronto


Apologies for taking so long to get back to you, just remembered your mail there now as i was scanning through them.
Anyways…In a word everything is great. So many good things have been happening lately and I’ve never been as happy. I’ll let you in on a few things…… now lasting ages in bed, still seeing the girl i was with at christmas, had the confidence to call her out on a few things where before i might have said nothing and now things are going great. The sex life is great, I’m moving in to a class new apartment, the course is going well and I’m looking into new job opportunities aswell!
I’ve found my outlook has completely changed and when things get tough at times I’m so much better able to deal with it.
I’ve learned a lot about what i initially consulted with. The DREAM technique helped a lot but there was a little bit of physical work to do aswell in that I had to learn to understand what my body was doing, get used to the sensations i was feeling, all while staying calm and cool.
There was a bit to it, maybe we should meet sometime so I can give you some more feedback about everything and you’ll have a point of reference if people come to you with that specific problem in future?
Looking forward to hearing from you Barry,
Thanks again for everything

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